Caregiving Wears Me Down — So I Started Asking This One Question Before I Act



Caregiving wears me down.
But it’s not always the physical work—it’s the constant decisions that break me.

Every day, it’s:
What’s next?
Who needs what?
How do I handle this?

This kind of nonstop decision-making leads to something real: decision fatigue.
And once it sets in, even simple choices feel like heavy lifting.

Here’s one thing I do now that helps:

Before I act, I pause and ask myself:
“Am I clear in what I’m asking for—or am I just reacting?”

That one question has saved my energy, my clarity, and honestly—my sanity.

You don’t have to do it all.
You just have to pause long enough to decide what’s yours to carry.

💬 A Gentle Reminder:

You matter too.
And the next time you feel overwhelmed?
Ask: Is this mine? Or is it time to let it go?

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