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What Caregiving Has Taught Me About Going Slow

I have never been the kind of person who jumps out of bed at the sound of an alarm. I’m more of a coax-yourself-awake person — one, two, three, four, five… let’s go. That rhythm shifted when my dad fell and broke his hip. I still don’t leap into mornings, but I’ve come to appreciate the slower pace he’s moving at now as he heals — and as we enter this final phase of our journey, walking him home. There’s something about his need to go slow that has given me permission to do the same. To do less. To linger more. To reflect. To sit with what I’m feeling, knowing our time together is short. I’m more emotional than I expected to be. Or maybe not more — just more aware. My moods shift. The emotional weight of caregiving has become sharper this past week, especially as we begin making what-if plans and quietly close chapters we once took for granted. There are so many thoughts moving through me. Too many to manage all at once. And maybe the answer right now isn’t to manage them at ...
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Caregiving Flow: Finding Calm in the Middle of Daily Care

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  Image: www.pixabay.com/Amira Ber      There’s a side of caregiving most people don’t talk about. It isn’t dramatic. It isn’t heroic. It’s quiet. It’s the way your hands already know where the socks are. The way you don’t rush a story you’ve heard before. The way a doctor’s appointment goes smoothly and no one ends up in tears. Nothing big happened. And somehow, that feels like a gift. I’ve started thinking of those moments as caregiving flow. Not the hustle-culture version of flow. Not being energized or productive. But when the day moves without resistance. You’re still tired. You still have responsibilities. But you’re not fighting the moment you’re in. For those of us caring for aging parents, that matters. Our lives are shaped by appointments, medications, and a constant low-level alertness. It’s easy to stay braced for what might go wrong. Flow is what happens when that bracing softens. It might look like a calm morning. A smooth lab visit....
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A Week Into the New Year: Caregiving Intentions That Actually Hold Up

  We’re a week into the new year now. As a family caregiver, the calendar turning hasn’t changed the day-to-day reality all that much. Meals still need to be made. Medications still need to be tracked. Appointments still need to be remembered. The emotional weather still shifts without warning. And the parts of caregiving that drain us most are rarely the loud parts. They’re the steady parts. The constant parts. But if the new year hasn’t changed the reality, it can offer something else. A pause. A moment to notice what still feels heavy, what feels sustainable, and what quietly needs more support. This reflection came to me while reading my daily devotional. Not as a call to “do more” or reinvent myself, but as an invitation to be more intentional about how I carry what I’m already holding. I found myself wondering what caregivers actually value when it comes to the year ahead. Not aspirational resolutions that sound good on January 1, but grounded intentions that hold up o...
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Carrying Less Into 2026: Small Resets for Caregivers Who Are Tired

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  As we step into 2026, many of us are carrying last year’s exhaustion right along with us. Caregiving doesn’t reset with the calendar. There’s no “fresh start” button when responsibilities follow you from room to room — and from year to year. But there is room for something else. Small, doable resets that help you breathe again. Over time, I’ve learned that if caregivers are living life in quick snatches of time — on the run, on the fly, between interruptions — then our self-care has to match that reality. No hour-long routines. No perfect quiet moments. Just brief, intentional pauses that bring you back to yourself. These quick restore practices take 30 seconds or less . They’re easy. Repeatable. Grounding. And they’re exactly the kind of energy many of us need at the start of a new year. 🌿 1. Breathe Like You Mean It Slow inhale for four. Slow exhale for six. Repeat twice. This simple pattern lowers your heart rate and signals safety to your nervous system. I...
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Making Room for What Matters: A Year-End Reflection for Caregivers

This time of year always carries a different kind of weight. As the year winds down, I, like many of us, start taking stock. I reflect on lessons learned, what was gained or lost, and what quietly reshaped us when we weren’t paying attention. We think about our families. Our friendships. Our faith. Our finances. Our fun, or the lack of it. We think about the people who aren’t here anymore and the memories that still hold their place at the table. And somehow, in the middle of all that reflection, the holidays ask even more of us. More energy. More presence. More emotional labor. It’s a lot, even on a good year. What I’m taking into the New Year But here’s my take as I look forward: Reflection doesn’t have to be heavy. It can be clarifying. Softening. Even freeing. This season doesn’t have to be about doing more. It can be about deciding what no longer belongs in your hands, what deserves to be carried forward, and what can be laid down with love. ...
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Rest Begins With Permission: A Caregiver’s December Reflection

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  Image by Ambir Ber - www.pixabay.com Here’s something I learned the hard way: December has hands. Real ones. And every year, it grabs your shoulders, pulls you in close, and says: “Sit down. Let’s talk.” December isn’t just a calendar month — it’s a mirror. It makes you look back at the year that’s ending and forward at the one you’re about to walk into. It pulls up memories you thought you’d buried, and questions you’ve been avoiding since July. And as caregivers, do you ever find it strange that we live in that tender space where the past, present, and future overlap? Not everybody understands that. Not everybody has to. The loved ones we care for today might not be here next December. That’s not dramatic — that’s just part of the truth caregivers learn to live with. And is it just me, or do you feel it too — that we experience the clock in ways others don’t? The days feel heavier. The moments feel sharper. Time feels… closer. “Caregivers don’t measure time in hours — we m...
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A Caregiver’s Eve: Finding Peace in the Quiet Corners of the Season

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  The holiday season carries its own kind of magic, but for family caregivers it also carries weight. While the world moves in ribbons and bows, garland and trees, family gatherings and plans, many caregivers move through a quieter rhythm. We navigate the holiday not only with lists and preparation, but with emotional load, responsibility, and tender memories threaded into the days. In my world, we celebrate the moments that matter, with attention to birthdays. There are many of them in December, my dad among them. We also remember my mom, who died many years ago around Christmas, and her memory rests softly in the season. The celebration is still there, just quieter. In our home we are learning that joy doesn’t always come from grand plans or picture-perfect holidays. Sometimes it shows up in subtler ways: in the retelling of old stories, in remembrances of seasons past, in missing those no longer here, in the awareness that for my dad this could be the last Christmas we celebra...
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