Dad's Thoughts On Happiness

 

I’ve lost count of how many times my dad has asked, “Are you happy?” 🤔 My response has always been the same: “I’m not unhappy.”

After five years as his caregiver, two questions seem to resurface almost daily: “Did you sleep well?” 😴 and “Are you happy?” ❤️

I can finally say yes—I’m sleeping better. But happiness? That’s still a work in progress.

Recently, Dad reminded me, “Sandra, life doesn’t hand you joy—you have to find it, even when it feels impossible.” ✨

I reflect on his words often, especially during my morning meditation and devotionals. Lately, I’ve been more intentional—practicing gratitude 🙏, prioritizing self-care 💆‍♀️, and embracing the present moment.

Happiness is personal and ever-evolving. It’s more than just a fleeting emotion—it’s a mindset, shaped by gratitude, purpose, and resilience.

For some, happiness comes from external experiences—relationships, achievements, or adventures. For others, it’s rooted in inner peace, self-acceptance, or spiritual connection.

Dad’s wisdom is a reminder: Life doesn’t hand you joy—you have to find it. 

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